In the book Enjoy The Hell Out Of Your Life I talk about having a variety of ways to purge. That means when you have tension or a lot going on inside, you can release or purge tension, anxiety, and worry.

Utilizing activities that help you to unburden and become more present is a very useful practice and this is what I am referring to as purging.

Purging is necessary when you find that you are in purge-atory. That is you are not experiencing Heaven and you may not be experiencing Hell either. You may be in that in between place I call purge-atory. This is where you are best served by doing purging activities and releases.

• These activities and releases range;

  • from taking a walk to climbing a mountain,

  

  • from taking a bath to swimming a mile,

  • from meditating to going to India,

  • from taking a dance class to dancing in the moonlight,

  • from writing in a journal to writing a novel…or two.

  • from making good food to making love,

  • and any other way that helps you to unburden.

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The things that bring you calm, help you to center and lead you to peace are as unique as your personality. What worked for you yesterday may not be useful today.

One way to purge may not be enough. Stringing a couple together may help you get back to center quicker. Creative experimenting is encouraged to find what works for you today. Having some old reliable ways to get back to center that always work is strongly encouraged too.

I am guessing that you are like me and that you have some ways that work yet you do not get around to doing them very often. When you do you probably think this is so good for me why have I not done this in a while? Make a list of what are some of these things that you feel you would benefit from doing more often.

• Here is a short list of ideas. The first few are a couple of my activities that I sometimes forget to do.

  • Dancing

  • Playing team sports

  • Cooking

  • Hiking

  • Meeting a friend

  • Having a good conversation

  • Skiing

  • Gardening

One high on the list for me is physical movement. Some quick things I do to release tension and worry are dancing, running, and taking a walk. This get the juices flowing quick and then I add other ways to purge to keep it flowing.

Pay attention to your Urge to Purge to improve your attitude and to manifest a brighter future. When things are OK but are lacking passion it is also a great time to purge

Remember; Purge everyday keeps tension away.
What are you doing to purge today?

Lighter and brighter.

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The non-conscious part of your brain follows directions well. A couple of ways it receives directions is through visualization and ritual.

Imagine that you want to improve your relationship with someone. It could be at work, a friendship, an intimate relationship or anything in between.

Make a list of several things you appreciate about the person.Visualize them interacting with you in a positive way that you appreciate. You may start to notice all the things they do right and all the wonderful things about them.

Those traits were there before yet they become more apparent when your intention triggers your conscious awareness. This activates the filter in your Reticular Activating System (part of your brain) that will support your mind in finding what you ask it to. Next time you see the person you will feel more positive toward them.

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If you think about them after visualizing you also will feel more positive. This is harnessing the power of your mind. When you are thinking about the things you like about them and the way you like to be treated you are calling to mind positive images. This is a form of visualizing.

Visualization is a powerful tool that is used by many athletes, musicians and even job applicants.

Research has shown that people who visualize shooting foul shots in basketball improve their foul shot ability as much as other people who take the same time and actually practice shooting foul shots. There was a third group in these studies who did not visualize or practice and they had no improvement in foul shooting ability.

In the Olympics that were held in Vancouver in 2010 there were several times that we saw athletes rehearsing and even going through some motions before an event. The athletes are taught to see their performance from start to finish going perfectly.

The figure skaters were sometimes seen off ice getting ready and actually moving and gesturing before they got onto the ice. They were rehearsing and picturing what they were about to do.

Here is a way to link together the use of Ritual with Visualization. As you visualize what you like about the person you are thinking about and you see them treating you and you treating them in a way that you like and want to encourage. Select a strong image that you can easily recall at a later time.

Now every time before you go to bed spend two minutes recalling the positive picture and while you are picturing it bring up as much positive feeling as you can to support it going deeper into your experience.

You can also meditate and right after meditating while you are in a very relaxed and suggestible space bring up the positive images and bring up positive emotions toward the person.

Rituals help when dealing with the non-conscious. They help you to reprogram the non-conscious part of your mind.

Repeated rituals work very well. Here is a suggestion. Every time you park you car call up the positive image yo selected before and focus on it for thirty seconds. You can couple this to any thing you do on a regular basis to help you to install the new image in the non-conscious.

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Become a more powerful manifestor and create a better life by recalling positive images in ritualized ways and at ritualized times.

When you create rituals to harness and enhance your undivided 15 bits a second of attention you will greatly enhance your connections with others and have a brighter future.

Happy Manifesting, talk to you again soon.

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Your Brain holds the mystery of accessing the conscious and the non-conscious mind. Science understands more today about the brain and the relationship between the conscious and the non-conscious, yet the more that scientists figure out the more we recognize that we don’t know. It is as puzzling as ever. It seems like our consciousness is a tiny tail that tries to wag a very big dog.

There are millions of bits of information being channeled through all your senses to your brain. Your consciousness can only deal with about 15 bits or less of information in a second. There is an automatic funnel that goes from millions of bits of information to about 15 bits. This funneling process in not conscious.

What happens in our immediate world and much of what is registered by our senses and sent to the brain never make it to consciousness. The non-conscious mind filters out about 99.9% of incoming data. We only see and experience the edges of things and our mind fills in the rest.

Look for

• The good in everything

• What is working

• What you like

• What you are grateful for

• The People You Love

• Opportunities to Share Happiness

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Your brain works with the images you feed it. So feed it well.

For example you decide to give your child a cat. All of the sudden you see cats and pets stores every where. Were they there before? Yes, they were there yet you were not noticing them.

Because of your decision to give a cat to your child you activate your reticular activating system to be on the look out for anything cat related. This ties in to visualization.

Visualizing what you want to do before you do it cues your brain to produce the desired result. Your brain finds good results for you just like it finds the cat. Visualization is used to enhance any performance and is widely used in sports.

So visualize what you want to do and even see your self doing it and doing it well. more active your brain is the more what you desire will naturally come to you.

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This is how appreciation works. When you appreciate something you are, by a classic definition, adding value to it. Its value is increased by your appreciation. This is a good habit to engage in for your better life.

• Here are a few definitions of appreciation.

  • An expression of admiration, approval, or gratitude

  • Recognition of the quality, value, significance, or magnitude of people and things.

  • Appreciation of an asset is an increase in its value and price, especially over time.

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As you appreciate the important people and all the amazing capabilities, privileges and things that you have, you are literally adding value to them.

 

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If you speak to someone about things that you deeply appreciate they will get the value you are adding. With some practice you can turn bad attitudes into good attitudes and good ones into great ones. You can turn a mediocre life into a better life and a better life into a great one.





A good exercise is to keep a gratitude journal and write in it every night before you go to sleep. This way the last thing you are thinking about before sleep is what you appreciate and are grateful for.





This simple practice will help you to see how many amazing things you have in your life and how blessed you are. I recommend that you try this for a couple of months. It trains your mind to focus on the good things in your life.





Reality is changeable to how we see it. When you appreciate the people that you are around you will find that valuable people surround you. The more you appreciate what you have in your life the more you find that amazing things and circumstances show up. You increase your magnetism.

 

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Think of all the important people in your life and what you appreciate and admire about them. Make a point of telling them and notice how as their value goes up in your eyes that your value goes up in theirs. This can improve you life and increase your overall joy.





In every situation you are in you can choose to appreciate and add value or depreciate and take away value. The more you focus on appreciating, the more value you add and the more fanastic life becomes.





I appreciate you reading this.

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The Attitude of Gratitude is probably something you have heard of before. That is because a bunch of professional speakers, including me, have used it in presentations or done entire presentations on the topic (I have). What is it and how does it work?

The attitude of gratitude is a state of mind and a way of thinking that has you focus on what you are grateful for. Our conscious mind focuses on one thing well at a time. If you are thinking about why what is happening is great, or that a person you know is awesome you are not focused on why what is happening or that person is bad.

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This reminds me of what Einstein said, “You can not simultaneously prepare for and prevent war.” How that translates is “you can not simultaneously appreciate someone or something and depreciate it that at the same time”. There has been research on optical illusions where two images are contained in the same picture. A classic one from the early 1900’s is below.

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Before you read any further look at the picture. What do you see? If you already see an image look and see if you can find another image before you read any further.

What did you see?

An old woman?

A young girl?

Try this experiment if you can see both women. Focus on just one image, first the old woman. When you focus on the old woman the young girl disappears. The opposite is true also. If you focus on the young girl the old woman fades out. You see only one image at a time.

Once you know what you are looking for you can switch back and forth quickly. You can get to the point where you let your eyes go out of focus and from a less focused place you can recognize features of both. Yet as soon as you focus on one, that image becomes more prominent and the other fades out.

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• What we notice and focus on about people and situations is a choice. If you do not like what
  you are seeing you can change it.

  • You can have a better life.

  • You can have a better attitude.

You can focus on appreciating whatever you are looking at and your mind will find good.

It sounds simple, appreciate what you are looking at then things look better. Choose a positive appreciative focus and you improve your life and the lives of those around you. Be a value adder.

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As I write this I am not waiting to be done writing to be happy. I am in a very curious and satisfied space. I love the creative process. I like being in the process and I like completing articles too. I allow myself to be happy in all phases of the project. The opportunity is to be happy with whatever phase of a project you are in. Yes I will be happy when I am finished because I choose to be happy now in this moment and when finishing the article gets here I am confident that I will be happy in that now moment.

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When I asked my friends mother what she enjoyed most about raising her daughter she said “each age brought it’s own challenges and rewards and I saw it as my job to appreciate and find maximum joy in each age.” Yes we can find joy and happiness at each age and in each moment. You can appreciate and add value now. When a new moment arrives choose to Be Happy in the new Now.

• Asking good questions can direct your attention in a positive direction. Here are a few that can get you started.

  • What do I like now?

  • What is good about this?

  • How does this serve me?

  • What is fun or funny about this?

  • How can what is happening right now and right here lead to my brighter future?

  • How is this the best thing that can happen now?

This serves you for creating your better life right now by using better questions and choosing happiness now. In my book, “Enjoy The Hell Out Of Your Life” I write in the chapter on acceptance about how everything is designed for your growth and benefit. How you react to anything is up to you. You can find the good, or what I call in the book “Blessings in Disguise” in anything you are involved in. You can pay attention to and change your self-talk as you choose a positive attitude.

When you catch yourself using negative and limiting self-talk that postpones happiness decide that you will stop and choose to Be Happy Now. Use this new habit to replace the habit of postponing happiness. You immediately will have a better life now.

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I will be happy when I finish this article. This is how it starts, it seems simple enough that we do not see we have robbed ourselves of happiness in this moment. We always have someplace we are trying to get to, or something we need to do or finish that when we get there or we complete the task we will ALLOW ourselves to be happy.

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Allow is the key word. It is a decision you make, without realizing that you made a decision to limit your happiness. If you start to feel good you may not allow it because you are not there yet. Wherever “there” is? Be aware of the words you use, it may not be the word happy, it may be relieved, comfortable or secure. An example is,"I will feel secure when I get that promotion". What other things are you waiting for?

• Check and see how often you say things like I will be happy when

  • I get a new car

  • I finish finals

  • I have an intimate relationship

  • I get a raise

  • I make my first million

  • My team wins

  • I drop 10 pounds

  • The weather changes

  • I am someplace other than here

  • It is Friday

  • So and so stops doing such and such

  • Someone you are close to drops 10 pounds

  • I figure out Internet marketing

  • My cash flow exceeds my expenses

  • My spouse wants sex

  • My spouse stops bothering me for sex

  • The list goes on and on

  • Etc…

You can be happy right now. Nothing needs to be different. I have been to several lectures given by Ram Dass. He is a spiritual teacher who wrote the book “Be Here Now.” Some of what I learned from his book forms the basis of “Be Happy Now”. You can choose to be happy and have a better life now.

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Years after his book “Be Here Now” Ram Dass had a stroke. He survived and I saw him speak post stroke. He spoke a little slower and he said it was so we (his audience) would have an easier time keeping up with him. He wrote a book after the Stroke called “Still Here.” It is apparent to me that not only was he “Still There,” he was continuing to find joy and humor in whatever he was involved with. He seemed quite happy even as he shared his new challenges.

Choose to make your job description, finding joy and humor in what you are involved in right now. You do not need to postpone your better life. You can choose to ‘Be Happy Now’ and have a positive attitude that is fun to be around.